If you are a Nigerian who lives in the country, then you would understand that the society places some sort of responsibility on the men. We get to hear people say things like it is not easy to be a man and the sort.
This is because there is an unrealistic expectation the society has as to the way a man should behave and the things he ought to have at a particular period in time. as a matter of face, a Nigerian man’s life is planned out long before he starts to hustle.
If he hustles for too long without having a major break, there is problem. If he does not hustle at all, he is not a man. If he resides to fate, then he is lazy and when a richer man snatches his wife from him, he is considered unfortunate. What then is expected of a man in Nigeria and how best is he supposed to live his life when the public is sentimental about his life style and what he chooses to do at a particular time.
Find below some of the things expected from a man in Nigeria:
1. He should never cry
When he is bereaved, he is expected to hold himself and comport himself. He is not allowed to give in to emotions because it would portray him as being weak. What exactly is he, a robot?Many people believe it is an abomination for a man to cry and being a man in Nigeria means you have to be strong always even when you are dying within.
2. You are less of a man when you are jobless
If you are a man in Nigeria who is jobless, life could become frustrating. You lose the right to air your opinion because you are tagged a recluse as a result of your joblessness. Hanging out with your friends will be impossible because you would no longer be considered a part of them. Your license as a man is being revoked until you have what it takes to measure up to the other men in the society.
3. You must provide for your family
It does not matter if your salary is a little above 50k, you are expected to take care of your family with it, your wife must look good in the society; your parents have done their best taking care of you, now it is your turn to take care of them.
And you had better save part of that money too because your friends expect you to chat over a couple of drinks once in a while. All these would happen to you because you are a man.
4. Attending a reunion while being broke is not allowed
As a man in Nigeria, you are not supposed to let your old friends see you as a struggling person in Nigeria, attending reunions mean you have to be on your best behavior and show everyone you have made something out of yourself. As a man in Nigeria, you are expected to form up to the point where your helper thinks you should be the one helping him.
5. Your wife should never earn more than you
Being a man in Nigeria means you have to kill yourself in order for your family to live. You are a woman’s wrapper if you seek the counsel of your mother and you half of a man when your wife puts food on the table. Being a man here means your wife’s salary must not be more than yours and you must turn her down any time she wants to help with a bill so you do not lose your title. How sickening!
6. You are not allowed to show signs of defeat
As a man, you are to give everyone the impression that you got things under control even if you do not know where you are. You are supposed to live a false life so as to keep up with the expectations they have of you being a man. You should never accept defeat, it is a sign of weakness on your part.
7. You are to be totally useless in the kitchen
Being a man in this part of the world means your duties do not extend to the kitchen. A woman is meant to look after your needs and do everything for you. You are not expected to know how to do simple chores in the house; if you are able to boil water to a hundred degrees, you have done something extraordinary.
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